“They may not deserve forgiveness, but I do.” ~ Anne P.
Forgiveness is an act, not a feeling. Though it may generate feelings, forgiveness is an exercise of the will. When we forgive, we refuse to be further damaged by the wrongdoing of others.
A refusal to forgive is called a resentment. And the victim of resentment is always the one who carries it. The people we refuse to forgive may neither know nor care about our resentment.
To hang onto a resentment is to harbor a thief in the heart. By the minute and the hour, resentment steals the joy we could treasure now and remember forever. It pilfers our energy to celebrate life – to face others as messengers of grace rather than ambassadors of doom. We victimize ourselves when we withhold forgiveness.
Today, I will remember that forgiveness is a giver and resentment is a taker. Because I deserve it, I will forgive old hurts. I will see forgiveness as a gift to myself.
~ Days of Healing, Days of Joy ~ Apr. 14; Hazeden Meditation Series