“The lowest ebb is the turn of the tide.” ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Sometimes our relationships have to get worse before they can get better. Sometimes, in fact, pain in a relationship may mean that we’re doing something right – perhaps for the first time.
Many adult children grow up with some abnormal habits and patterns that, over time, come to feel “normal”. Often, we don’t become aware that these patterns are unhealthy until we are recovering. And by then these behaviors are thoroughly woven into our adult relationships. When we begin to change them, we also change the original ground rules of the relationship. As we start to think and act differently, we throw our partners off just as surely as if we started to tango in the middle of a waltz.
Some relationships don’t survive the changes. But many are saved because the recovering person had the courage to change the music and persist in the new steps until equilibrium could be regained.
I have confidence in the new direction I am taking. In the long run I trust that all will be well for me and mine.
~ Days of Healing, Days of Joy ~ Aug 15; HMS