Written by “Apologizing with words isn’t the same thing as apologizing with actions.” ~ Laura J. The old Chinese saying “Talk doesn’t cook rice” emphazises an important principle in successful human relations. The point is that saying and doing are different things. People can say they’re sorry every day or ten times a day. But the proof [...]
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Life … a reality to be experienced
“Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard Problems are often teachers. As we continue to recover, we come to value the lessons learned through our problems. But “problem thinking” can be a problem in itself, strangely enough. It can become an addiction and an escape [...]
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“Where does all the fake love come from? Is it them or is it me?“ ~ Mel K. The more precious any treasure is, the more fakes are created around it. And what is a greater treasure than love? Inauthentic love abounds, and every variety is hollow at its core. Some of it is just [...]
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“Good people are good because they’ve come to wisdom through failure.” ~ William Saroyan Many of us grew up with the injunctions – do it faster, do it better, do more. Instant, complete success was the only success. Since this is impossible, we experienced only failure and expected only more failure, despite success. Nothing can [...]
READ MORE »“Help me!”
‘The smartest thing I ever said was, “Help me!”‘ ~ Dorrie T. How difficult it is to acknowledge that we need help! How it goes against the grain to admit we are needy. But “Help me!” is the password that opens the door to recovery. When we say these words to our Higher Power, spouse, [...]
READ MORE »Reflection breeds insight…
“We don’t have time not to have time.” ~ Gary Burke To develop the habit of reflection means to take the time, regularly and often, to listen to ourselves, to ask how things are going, to think about what things we did today that were successful, and what things we did that were not so [...]
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“Death is the mother of beauty.” ~ Wallace Stevens Death, like birth, is natural. Our feelings about it aside, death is not a mistake that can be avoided or an outrage that should be protested. Death is a part of life – it is the last stage of living. By completing the process that began [...]
READ MORE »Chaos
“Admitting error clears the score and proves you wiser than before.” ~ Arthur Guiterman Much of the chaos in our lives can be directly traced to our own lopsided values. Not only do we act out these beliefs more than we think we do, we may be fiercely loyal to the very belief systems that [...]
READ MORE »Hiding Places
“If you want to be found, stand where the seeker seeks.” ~ Sidney Lanier When does a good program turn into a bad program? When it becomes a hiding place. As adult children, we are good – no, ingenious – at finding hiding places. Sometimes we hide behind our work by staying super busy. We [...]
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“I haven’t won yet but I haven’t lost either.” ~ Dennis C. A favorite saying in sports is, “It isn’t losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down.” In life as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like, “Let go and let God,” or “Let it begin with me,” it is a saying [...]
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